Advertising, Marketing, and Networking: They’re Not the Same Thing

Therapists use these words interchangeably all the time. “I need to do more marketing,” when they mean advertising. “My advertising isn’t working,” when the problem is actually their messaging. “I hate marketing,” when what they really hate is self-promotion.

Let’s untangle this.

Marketing is the umbrella.

Marketing is everything about how you position yourself and communicate your value. It’s your messaging, your brand, who you’re trying to reach, and how you talk about what you do. Marketing answers the questions: Who do I help? What problem do I solve? Why should someone choose me?

Your website copy is marketing. Your Psychology Today profile is marketing. The way you describe your practice at a networking event is marketing. The Instagram post you wrote about burnout is marketing.

Marketing isn’t something you do - it’s the foundation everything else sits on.

Advertising is paid visibility.

Advertising is when you pay to put your message in front of people. Psychology Today is advertising (yes, that monthly fee is an ad). Google Ads, Facebook Ads, Instagram promotions, sponsored posts - all advertising.

Here’s where therapists get tripped up: they invest in advertising before their marketing is solid. You can pay for all the visibility in the world, but if your messaging doesn’t resonate, you’re just paying to be ignored.

I’ve seen therapists spend hundreds on Google Ads driving traffic to a website that says, “I provide a warm, supportive environment using evidence-based approaches.” That’s not a message. That’s wallpaper.

Networking is relationship-based visibility.

Networking is building connections with people who can refer to you or collaborate with you. Coffee meetings with other therapists, connecting with physicians, building relationships with school counselors, and joining professional communities.

Networking is slow. It doesn’t scale. And it’s often the most effective thing you can do.

Why? Because a referral from a trusted source carries weight that no ad can match. When a psychiatrist tells their patient “I know a therapist who specializes in exactly what you’re dealing with,” that person is practically sold before they ever visit your website.

So what does this mean for your practice?

First, get your marketing right. Clarify who you help and what transformation you provide. Make sure your website and profiles actually speak to your ideal client’s experience - not just your credentials and modalities.

Second, don’t over-rely on any single advertising channel. I’ve watched therapists build entire practices on Psychology Today referrals, then panic when the algorithm changes or their area gets saturated. Diversify. Maybe it’s Psychology Today, a Google Business Profile, and one other directory. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

Third, network consistently. Not frantically when your caseload drops - consistently. Two coffee meetings a month. Staying connected with colleagues. Building real relationships, not just collecting business cards.

Here’s the thing: advertising costs money. Networking costs time. But bad marketing costs you both - because you’ll spend money on ads that don’t convert and time on networking conversations that don’t lead anywhere, all because your message isn’t landing.

Before you ask, “Where should I advertise?” ask, “Is my message clear?” Before you ask, “How do I get more referrals?” ask, “Do people actually understand who I help?”

Marketing first. Then decide how you want to get visible - through paid advertising, relationship-building, or ideally both.

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