The Consultation Call: Where Most Therapists Lose the Client

You’re getting inquiries. People are booking consultations. But they’re not converting to clients.

The problem usually isn’t your rate. It’s the call itself.

Most therapists treat consultation calls like mini-therapy sessions - lots of listening, lots of empathy, not enough clarity. Or they treat them like interviews where they’re the one being evaluated, and they forget they’re also evaluating the client.

A consultation call has a specific purpose: determine fit and set expectations. That’s it.

Start with them, not you.

Don’t launch into a five-minute monologue about your practice, your approach, and your background. They can read that on your website.

Start by asking what brought them to reach out. Then actually listen. What are they struggling with? What have they tried before? What are they hoping for?

Describe the transformation, not the process.

When they ask “what’s your approach?” they’re not really asking about CBT vs. psychodynamic. They’re asking “can you help me?”

Instead of explaining your modalities, describe what working with you looks like and where it leads.

“Most of my clients come in feeling overwhelmed and disconnected from their partners. Over the course of our work, they learn to actually communicate without it turning into a fight, and they start to feel like a team again. I’m pretty direct - I’ll give you tools and call out patterns when I see them.”

That’s more useful than “I use an integrative approach combining attachment theory and Gottman techniques.”

State your rate without apologizing.

When it’s time to talk about money, state your rate clearly:

“My rate is $200 per session. I don’t bill insurance directly, but I can provide a superbill if you’d like to submit for out-of-network reimbursement.”

Then stop talking.

Don’t immediately offer a discount. Don’t explain why you charge that amount. Don’t apologize. State it and let them respond.

You’re evaluating fit too.

Remember: this isn’t just about them deciding if they want to work with you. You’re deciding if you want to work with them.

Do they seem like someone you can help? Do they align with your ideal client? Are there red flags about boundaries or expectations?

It’s okay to end a consultation with “Based on what you’ve shared, I think you might be better served by someone who specializes in [X]. I’d be happy to give you some referrals.”

Not every inquiry should become a client.

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